Mark Conner Relationships, Soul Food

Soul Food Episode 40 – Anger

Have you been angry lately? Anger is a common emotion. Every person has times when they experience feelings of annoyance, irritation, resentment, or anger.

There are two common causes of anger.

Firstly, there is frustration. Frustration occurs when our goal is blocked. Maybe the driver in front of you is going 10 kilometers under the speed limit and you are in a hurry or maybe someone is an hour late for an appointment that you made an effort to be on time for. When you are frustrated you start to feel angry.

The second cause of anger is hurt. When someone does or says something to us that really hurts us, anger begins to emerge. What we need to realise is that anger can cause great damage and so therefore it is essential for healthy relationships that we do our best to keep our anger under control.

There is a big difference between feeling angry and then acting out angry behaviour. Anger is not the problem. It’s what we do with it. I encourage you to make every effort to manage your anger today. That’s a vital skill for healthy relationships.

You can watch a video of this episode on the Soul Food with Mark Conner YouTube channel.

Mark Conner Relationships, Soul Food

Soul Food Episode 37 – Forgiveness

Many years ago I was on a building site and I was cutting through a piece of wood with an electric saw. Unfortunately, I cut through the wood and then took a chunk out of my finger. There was blood gushing everywhere. It really hurt. I rushed off to the hospital and got some stitches.

Thankfully, the body went into a healing process and over time the pain went away. I have got a scar there and I remember what happened, but it no longer hurts.

You know it is the same in our emotional world. Sometimes things happen that hurt us and it’s painful. But hopefully, we will experience a healing process so that over time the pain goes away.

How does that happen? It’s only through choosing to forgive those that have hurt us that healing takes place. If we don’t forgive, bitterness can become like a destructive poison eating us up on the inside.

So I urge you today, has someone offended you?

Have the courage to forgive them and to release them. NOT from accountability but from your need for revenge, to get back at them.

As you do, the healing process can begin to work in your life.

P.S. See also ‘Common Questions About Forgiveness.’

You can watch a video of this episode on the Soul Food with Mark Conner YouTube channel.