The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Externalization and The Table of Life

In this next conversation with Nicole Conner, we talk about the power of externalization. In all of our lives, we are not the problem; the problem is the problem. Externalizing prevents us from forming our identity around a problem story and enables us to deal with it more objectively.

The ‘table of life’ is a powerful metaphor or word picture that sees our lives as a table with many guests. Some are helpful while others are difficult. Some are quiet while others can be noisy at times. I wonder what and who is at your table today and what the stories are that they are telling you. And are you okay with that?

The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Narrative Therapy

Today I begin a series of conversations with my wife, Nicole Conner, on the topic of ‘The Stories We Tell Ourselves’. Nicole has a Masters of Narrative Therapy and Community Work from Melbourne University and she has her own narrative therapy practice called Defining Stories. Over the last few years, Nicole has been able to come alongside many people and help them navigate a variety of problems and challenges in their lives.

In this first video conversation, we discuss narrative therapy and what drew Nicole to this particular modality or discipline. We also talk about how this approach can be transformative.

Here are the other episodes in this series on The Stories We Tell Ourselves:

  1. Narrative Therapy (this episode).
  2. Defining Stories.
  3. Problem Stories.
  4. Externalisation and the Table of Life.
  5. A Story About Anxiety.
  6. Discerning Your Dominant Story.

For those desiring to learn more about narrative therapy, here are some recommended resources: